BDSM Culture

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The BDSM subculture today, like transgenderism and even polyamory, is a culture coming into its own.  Along with supporting statistical surveys, the intense popularity of E.L. Jame’s erotic romance novel 50 Shades of Grey demonstrates that BDSM is not the stigmatized disorder many sexologists, past and present, have deemed it.  A significant part of the population enjoys various forms of bondage, discipline, playful pain, domination and submission.  I am not an expert at BDSM counseling, but I am sex positive, sex interested and consider BDSM to be a beautiful form of healthy sex and relationship play.  There is nothing disordered about BDSM, as in anything, provided mindfulness and thoughtfulness is present.  And of course, we are not always mindful and haven’t thought things through, so individuals, couples and families frequently have some distress and discomfort surrounding BDSM issues.  I’m happy to help with any of these kinds of issues:

  • Coming out to self and others
  • Building self-esteem and confidence
  • Negotiation of roles, ethics and agreements
  • Control and consent issues
  • Working on boundary issues and scene play
  • Trust, openness and respect
  • Not going “too far”, triggering and honoring safe words/symbols

A few resources in the Dallas area:

And you might find some other websites of interest on the NT Council of Clubs website here.

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